Absent Minded Lovers

Imagine the moment you first fell in love, when everything felt like it had aligned perfectly in the universe, just for you. There was a spark, a connection that you hadn’t felt before, a rush of emotions that made your heart race and your mind spin. They walked into your life and suddenly, the world seemed brighter, more vibrant, more alive. You couldn’t help but be drawn to them, captivated by their charm, their charisma, the way they seemed to light up every room they entered.

You wanted to know everything about them, to understand what made them tick, what made them laugh, what made them smile. You were enchanted by their stories, their laughter, the way they could make you feel like the most important person in the world. You thought they felt the same, that they saw you, appreciated you, loved you in return.

But then, slowly, you started to notice things. Small things at first, little signs that they weren’t really paying attention, that they weren’t as invested as you were. They would forget important dates, dismiss your feelings, brush off your concerns. They were absent-minded, always distracted, always thinking about something else, someone else. You’d be talking, pouring your heart out, and you’d see that distant look in their eyes, like they were somewhere far away, not really with you at all.

It hurt, but you told yourself it didn’t matter, that you could fix it, that if you just loved them harder, they would come back to you, they would see you, they would choose you. You tried to be patient, tried to be understanding, tried to give them the space they needed, hoping that they would realize what they were losing, hoping that they would see how much you cared.

But they didn’t. They were full of themselves, always talking about their own problems, their own dreams, their own desires. They never stopped to ask about you, to see how you were doing, to check in on your heart. They were so caught up in their own world, their own mind, their own needs, that they didn’t even notice you slipping away.

And that’s when you realized — you were in love with a ghost, a shadow of the person you thought they were. They were never really there, never really present, never really yours. You were just an afterthought, a convenience, something to fill the time until something better came along.

Feel the pain of that realization, the sting of knowing that you were never a priority, never the focus of their attention, never the one they truly wanted. Feel the emptiness that fills your heart as you think about all the time you wasted, all the love you gave, all the dreams you had for a future that will never be.

Imagine yourself trying to hold on, trying to keep the pieces together, trying to make them see what they’re missing. But it’s no use. They’re too wrapped up in themselves, too lost in their own thoughts, too blind to see what they’ve lost. You’re left standing there, your heart in your hands, watching them walk away without a second glance.

You feel like a fool, like you should have seen this coming, like you should have known better. But you couldn’t help it. You were in love, truly in love, and you wanted to believe that they loved you too. You wanted to believe that they could change, that they could grow, that they could be the person you needed them to be.

But they couldn’t. They were too absorbed in themselves, too focused on their own reflection, too busy chasing their own dreams to notice the one person who would have done anything for them, who would have given them the world, who would have loved them forever.

And now, you’re left with nothing. Nothing but memories of what could have been, what should have been, what will never be. You’re left with a broken heart, shattered by their absence, by their indifference, by their selfishness. You’re left wondering why you weren’t enough, why they couldn’t see your worth, why they couldn’t love you the way you loved them.

Feel the tears welling up in your eyes, the lump forming in your throat, the ache in your chest that seems to grow with every breath. Feel the pain of losing them, not because of anything you did, but because of who they are, because of their inability to see beyond themselves, because of their refusal to let anyone in.

And as you sit with that feeling, as you let it wash over you, understand that you deserve better. You deserve someone who sees you, who appreciates you, who loves you for who you are, not for what you can give them. You deserve someone who is present, who is attentive, who is there for you, fully and completely.

You deserve more than an absent-minded lover, more than someone who is full of themselves, more than someone who can’t see your worth. You deserve someone who will cherish you, who will hold you close, who will never let you go.