Down the Rabbit Hole: An Ericksonian Induction of Sexual Curiosity and Wonder More in “Wonderland.”

There’s a moment, right before you lean in for a kiss, where the world holds its breath. A moment of raw, electric potential. That’s awe. But we’ve been trained — conditioned — to snuff it out.

We’ve allowed our sexuality to be dictated by rules, by culture, by communities so steeped in protocol that spontaneity dies at the altar of political correctness. And nowhere is this more obvious than in the kink world. The very realm that’s supposed to be about freedom, exploration, and primal connection has become a minefield of fear: fear of offending, fear of being labeled, fear of fucking up.

Here’s the truth, though: if you’re afraid of being seen as a deviant, why the fuck are you even here? Seriously. Why step into a realm of edge and shadow if you’re going to clutch your pearls every time someone gets too close to the fire? That fear kills the one thing you’re supposed to embrace in these spaces: your authentic, untamed self.

The irony? By following all the rules, by trying so hard not to offend or misstep, you lose the essence of what makes sexuality magical. The awe. The electricity. The fucking soul of it.

Here’s the deal, and listen closely because this is the most important training you’ll ever do: throw the goddamn rulebook out the window. Not to hurt or exploit — but to find your own edge. To rediscover the awe you’ve buried under layers of cultural programming. Stop asking for permission to breathe, to move, to feel. Stop treating desire like it needs to be notarized before it’s valid.

Look in the mirror. Say it with me: I am a deviant. Own it. Relish it. Because that’s the point. If you’re not willing to embrace your darker urges, to explore the contours of your desires, then what the hell are you even doing here?

The world doesn’t need more rule-followers. It needs more people who are unafraid to live in the friction between instinct and intention. That’s where the awe is. That’s where you are.

So, slut, here’s your assignment: let go. Dive in. And for once in your goddamn life, feel.

Welcome to Wonderland.

Doc