How to love a woman in 2023 without getting #MeToo’

My boyfriend at the time and I shared a love for our cats, but I observed a stark contrast in our interaction with them.

He would pamper the cats, providing them with treats and affectionate play. Yet, he had a habit I couldn’t share; he always picked them up. As he wandered around holding a cat, the animal’s unease was visibly evident, its desperate squirming a silent plea for release.

I, on the other hand, never did this. My interactions with the cats were on their terms. I allowed them the choice to approach or keep their distance, believing in respecting their freedom and agency.

As time unfolded, a telling pattern emerged. Despite his constant pampering, the cats felt a closer affinity with me. Their behavior — seeking my attention, affectionate nuzzles against my leg — showcased their preference.

This wasn’t merely about being gentle with them; it was a matter of acknowledging their autonomy. It’s a universal sentiment, desiring respect for one’s freedom and choices, applicable to all living beings.

This situation brought to light an invaluable insight about human relationships. In intimate settings, the respect for boundaries and autonomy holds paramount significance.

In making advances or deepening connections, the consent and comfort of all involved parties should always be the priority. A delicate blend of assertiveness paired with sensitivity can lay the foundation for a respectful and trusting relationship, where each party feels valued and heard.

There’s an innate need for autonomy and a longing for space in most individuals. People generally recoil from feeling smothered or confined. Recognizing and respecting this balance is central to the art of seduction.

Dr. Kali DuBois