Let me paint you a picture: you’ve finally worked up the courage to step into the world of sexual submission. You’re imagining surrender, trust, and the thrill of giving up control. But here’s the catch: if you’re not mature enough to handle what comes next, this isn’t the liberating experience you’ve fantasized about — it’s a disaster waiting to happen.

  1. Submission Isn’t About You — It’s About Connection
    Here’s where most guys screw it up. They think being a submissive male is all about their own gratification, their own fantasies. But the truth is, submission is a partnership. It’s about creating something together that neither of you could achieve alone. If you can’t understand that it’s not just about your needs, you’re not ready for this.
  2. If You Can’t Respect Boundaries, You’re Out
    Let’s cut the BS: boundaries are everything. Yours. Hers. The ones you agree on together. If you can’t respect them — or worse, if you’re the guy who tries to push them — then you’re not ready to be in this world. It’s not sexy, it’s not dominant, and it’s definitely not submissive. It’s just being a selfish jerk.
  3. Vulnerability Is a Superpower
    Most guys see vulnerability as weakness. But here’s the secret no one tells you: vulnerability is where the real power is. It’s the doorway to trust, intimacy, and transformation. If you’re not ready to own your vulnerability — if you’re too scared to expose yourself emotionally or physically — then you’re not ready to play this game.
  4. Your Immaturity Will Ruin Everything
    Let’s face it: immaturity isn’t just unattractive, it’s dangerous in a dynamic built on trust. If you can’t communicate what you want, handle rejection without throwing a tantrum, or respect your partner’s experience and skill, you’re not just ruining it for yourself — you’re making it harder for every guy who comes after you.
  5. Submission Isn’t an Escape Route
    Submission isn’t a way to run from your problems. It’s not a way to avoid responsibility. In fact, it’s the opposite — it’s about leaning into discomfort, embracing growth, and trusting someone to take you places you can’t go on your own. If you’re trying to escape, you’re doing it wrong.
  6. Communication Is Foreplay
    If you think submission is all about the physical, you’re missing the point. The real magic happens in the conversations before and after. Can you articulate your desires? Can you listen to hers without getting defensive? Can you ask the questions that deepen the connection? If not, you’re skipping the best part.
  7. If You’re Not Ready, You’ll Miss Out on the Good Stuff
    When you approach submission the right way — with respect, maturity, and vulnerability — it’s a game-changer. You’ll experience trust and intimacy on a level that most guys can only dream of. But if you come into it with selfishness or immaturity, you’ll miss out entirely. Worse, you’ll burn bridges you didn’t even know were there.

The Bottom Line
So here’s the truth: if you’re not mature enough to handle the responsibility of being a sexual submissive male, then don’t. Walk away, do the work on yourself, and come back when you’re ready. Because when you are ready, this isn’t just a kink — it’s an adventure. It’s a chance to explore your deepest self, connect with someone on a profound level, and experience something unforgettable. And trust me, it’s worth the wait.

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Dr. Kali DuBois
Dr. Kali DuBois

Written by Dr. Kali DuBois

Brainwashedslut.com - I own a venue in San Francisco that puts on comedy and stage hypnosis shows. I'm a PhD in psychology and I write books on sex.

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