Kali Goes Her Own Way

The path toward self-respect and empowerment had been unfolding gradually over time. It all began with experiences akin to the one involving my ex, who treated me as a mere pawn to be manipulated and financially drained. Not just of my bank account but of my emotional bank account. He had taken so much I had nothing left to give anyone.

Another unforgettable incident occurred recently with a guy whom I had a brief encounter with. I actually liked the guy. But several months ago, he abruptly and rudely told me to “go fuck myself,” despite my prior considerate treatment of him, which included sharing a nice meal, offering kind words, and sharing an intimate moment.

Then, against my better judgment, I allowed him back into my life, hoping for a semblance of normalcy. However, it quickly became evident that he was far from the stability I crave in human interactions.

In truth, my days are primarily occupied with solitary pursuits, such as diligently working for my company, engaging in research, applying for academic positions, dedicating time to my fitness at the gym, and providing guidance to my sexology and therapy patients.

It’s bewildering how the world around me seems to have descended into chaos, leaving me feeling like the sole bastion of sanity.

Subsequently, these individuals seem perplexed as to why women who value their self-respect don’t wish to engage in relationships with them. It’s rather self-evident.

It left me contemplating, why bother to engage if you have no desire for genuine connection? If your sole aim is physical intimacy, why not seek the services of a professional? Furthermore, there are women who are two decades younger than me who may be content with mere words of validation.

I’m at a point in my life where I simply desire solitude. My aspirations now include starting a family, owning a home, and having some land to call my own.

It was tonight that I realized the need for more self-respect. It wasn’t about them; it was about the type of people I was drawing into my life. I realized I had control over that, over who I was attracting and choosing to engage with.

If my goal is to have a family, own a house, and have some land, then it’s time for me to actively search for a home in the places I love and start exploring land options. I might also need to consider alternatives like using a sperm bank, as finding a stable partner is like finding a unicorn in today’s world.

This revelation led me to conceive the idea of “Kali Goes Her Own Way,” a movement inspired by my eight-year-long observance of the MGTOW (Men Going Their Own Way) principles that deeply resonated with me.

We appear to be living in a generation where women often feel that men have reduced their value to merely a physical aspect. This pervasive trend can be especially challenging for individuals like myself, deeply immersed in the field of sexology and exploring the realms of artistic sexual literature and art. While I am passionately dedicated to these areas, it doesn’t justify or permit anyone to diminish my worth to just my physical form.

For those of us who are deeply involved in exploring and educating about sexuality, it can be even more challenging to escape the over-sexualization that often accompanies our identity. However, this should never grant anyone the right to strip away our validation beyond the physical. We are multifaceted individuals with intellect, personality, and a wide range of interests that deserve recognition and respect.

In light of these circumstances, many quality women, including those I’ve interviewed, are increasingly disillusioned with the dating scene. The prevailing sentiment is that dating, in its current form, is more of a hassle than a genuine opportunity for meaningful connection. We may still yearn for genuine, respectful, and fulfilling relationships, but the continuous objectification and disappointment have led many women to prioritize self-growth and well-being over the complexities of dating in today’s world.

So, while the challenges of over-sexualization persist, it’s essential to remember that our worth extends far beyond our physicality, and the pursuit of meaningful connections remains a worthy endeavor, even if it means taking a step back from the dating arena for a while.

In a society where traditional dating dynamics often leave women feeling objectified or undervalued, a growing number of women are embracing the concept of “Women Going Their Own Way” (WGTOW). Just like their male counterparts in the MGTOW movement, these women are choosing to prioritize their independence, self-respect, and personal growth. Here’s how they can apply similar principles:

Embracing Independence: WGTOW prioritize their independence and self-sufficiency. They focus on building their careers, pursuing their passions, and nurturing their own well-being. This self-reliance ensures that they are not dependent on a partner for their financial or emotional stability.

Self-Respect and Boundaries: Much like MGTOW, WGTOW emphasize the importance of self-respect and setting boundaries. They refuse to settle for less than they deserve and are unapologetic about their standards when it comes to relationships. They won’t tolerate mistreatment or disrespect.

Avoiding Toxic Relationships: Women Going Their Own Way are keen on avoiding toxic or one-sided relationships. They recognize that a fulfilling partnership should be based on mutual respect, trust, and shared values. They are unwilling to invest time and energy in connections that do not serve their well-being.

Prioritizing Personal Growth: Just as MGTOW men focus on self-improvement, WGTOW women are committed to their personal growth and development. They channel their energy into education, career advancement, and pursuing their passions. They understand that personal fulfillment is a cornerstone of a happy life.

Championing Female Empowerment: WGTOW women often rally behind the cause of female empowerment. They support and uplift one another, sharing experiences, advice, and wisdom. This sense of community helps women navigate the challenges of going their own way.

Critical Reflection: Women in this movement engage in critical reflection about societal norms and expectations. They question traditional gender roles and expectations, seeking to redefine what it means to be a woman in today’s world. This introspection guides their choices and priorities.

Healthy Relationships, Not Dependency: WGTOW women do not reject relationships altogether; instead, they advocate for healthy and balanced partnerships. They prioritize relationships where both parties contribute equally, both emotionally and practically. They emphasize that a partnership should enhance their lives rather than creating dependency.

Choosing Happiness: Ultimately, WGTOW women embrace the idea that happiness and fulfillment come from within. They do not rely on external validation or societal pressures to define their worth. Instead, they choose to live life on their own terms, pursuing what brings them genuine joy and contentment.