LAST NIGHT ON SEX…WHY MEN ARE NOT SATISFIED AND FEELING UNFULFILLED
“Why She’s Not Satisfied (And Neither Are You): The Secret to Taking Back Control in the Bedroom and Beyond”
Last night’s show opened up a conversation every man needs to hear.
Hypnotherapist James Giunta and I listened to Ryan share a deeply personal story of being trapped in a toxic relationship.
What started as dating turned into a slow erosion of his confidence and sense of self-worth.
“She’d hit me, call me fat, and then tell me no one else would ever want me…I even got ….”
But something changed.
Ryan found purpose in his work and, through that, the strength to leave the relationship.
His story reveals something powerful: When men lose their sense of purpose, they lose themselves.
And without a way to reclaim it, they can become trapped in toxic dynamics.
“Why Every Man Craves Purpose — and How to Find It Again”
Men’s need for purpose isn’t just cultural — it’s biological. Rooted in evolutionary psychology, this drive dates back to the earliest days of humanity.
Back then, men’s roles were clear: they hunted, protected, and provided for their tribe. Bringing back the deer wasn’t just about survival; it was proof of their worth.
Jack Donovan captures this in The Way of Men: “Men are tribal. They find their identity in action and contribution.”
In ancient tribes, men’s purpose was defined by their ability to do something tangible — hunt, build, fight.
Their contribution secured their place in the tribe and gave them a clear sense of value.
But in today’s world, that dynamic is often missing. Modern culture doesn’t provide men with the same avenues for contribution and recognition.
The “hunt” has been replaced by office jobs, apps, and endless distractions. As a result, many men feel disconnected, undervalued, and purposeless.
This void makes them vulnerable to manipulation. In Ryan’s case, his partner exploited his insecurities, turning his lack of purpose into a weapon.
“The Brutal Truth About How Toxic Relationships Drain Your Confidence and Control Your Life”
Ryan described how his partner controlled him through a cycle of insults and temporary praise.
“If I did exactly what she wanted, she’d act like everything was fine. But if I stepped out of line, it was back to being called fat or useless.”
This dynamic isn’t unique. Toxic relationships often prey on a man’s desire to feel useful and valued.
Dr. Jordan Peterson notes that men need responsibility to find meaning, but when that responsibility isn’t met with recognition or mutual respect, it turns into exploitation.
Sexual and emotional manipulation thrive in this environment.
Alison Armstrong, author of The Queen’s Code, explains that men crave acknowledgment for their contributions.
When that acknowledgment is withheld — or worse, replaced with criticism — it creates a cycle of dependency and doubt.
“How to Take Back Your Purpose and Regain Control of Your Life”
For Ryan, the turning point came when he started working again. “Getting a job was like getting my life back. I realized I didn’t need her approval anymore — I was enough on my own.”
Work became Ryan’s modern-day “hunt,” a way to reconnect with his ability to contribute and feel valuable.
It gave him the clarity to see the relationship for what it was: a trap.
“The Hidden Reason Modern Men Feel Lost — And How to Fix It Fast”
Unlike our ancestors, modern men often lack clear outlets for their purpose.
Tribal roles no longer exist, and the structures that used to define masculinity have eroded.
As Jack Donovan puts it, “A man without purpose is a man without direction.” Without a tribe to serve or a hunt to complete, men can feel adrift.
Ryan’s story is a reminder that purpose doesn’t have to look like it did 10,000 years ago. It’s not about hunting deer — it’s about finding something meaningful to contribute to your life, your relationships, and your community.
If you’re feeling stuck in a toxic relationship or just lost in life, here’s how to reclaim your purpose:
>>Recognize the Manipulation: The first step is seeing the problem for what it is. Manipulative partners thrive on your insecurities.
>>Reconnect with Purpose: Whether it’s through work, hobbies, or personal growth, find something that gives your life meaning outside of the relationship.
>>Build a Support System: No man can do this alone. Surround yourself with people who see your value and want to help you succeed.
>>Set Boundaries: Toxic partners will test your limits, but standing firm is essential for reclaiming your power.
Join Us to Reclaim Your Power
All these stories inspired James and me to create a safe space for men to reconnect with their purpose. Starting next month, we’ll host a Men’s Clarity Group on Zoom.
Here’s what you can expect:
>>A Judgment-Free Zone: We’re not here to judge — just to listen, acknowledge, and help you find your way.
>>NLP and Hypnosis: Using these powerful tools, we’ll guide you toward clarity and self-empowerment.
>>Anonymity Guaranteed: What happens in the group stays in the group.
>>A Sliding Scale: Join for as little as $39, ensuring this space is accessible to everyone.
All proceeds go to support James’s Hypnotes project, so he can keep rocking like the rock star he is.
You don’t have to face this alone. Whether you’re stuck in a toxic relationship or just feeling lost, this group is here to help you reclaim your life and purpose.
Men’s journeys show us that breaking free starts with finding purpose. It’s not just about what you do — it’s about how you see yourself and your value.
To every man reading this: You’re not broken, and you’re not alone. The instincts that drove our ancestors to hunt still live in you. Reclaiming that drive doesn’t just transform your relationships — it transforms your life.
As Donovan says, “Masculinity is a calling.” Answer it. And if you’re ready to take that first step, join us.
Sign up for the Men’s Clarity Group you will seek the link in the comments below or you can direct message.
