MAIL BAG: GF IS VANILLA…HOW DO I?…

Allow me to mention this….Women are fucking lazy in bed. They have been conditioned to lay on their backs and count the tile. In fact, we enjoy being lazy in bed. And we enjoy counting the tiles, because 90% of our lovers are terrible in the sack.

Start with a gentle lead-in to make her feel comfortable and in control. Here’s the exact language:

“Hey, I’ve been thinking… how would you feel if we tried something new? I could either keep things exactly how they are, or we could explore something a little more intimate that I think would really turn you on. What do you think?”

THEN JUST DO IT.

Who’s running the show after you finish — her or you? Did she get hers yet? You’ll know she’s satisfied when she’s had a second orgasm. So don’t mention anything about the details, just get down there and make it happen. Focus on giving her another orgasm, and let your actions speak for themselves.

Women want to be in control right up until they hit the bed. Once they’re there, all they want to do is relax, feel, and let their minds wander. Just let her slip into that sub space and enjoy the moment.

Most women love the feeling of just lying back and enjoying oral. If she doesn’t, well, maybe she needs to explore that with a therapist or find a partner she’s genuinely attracted to.

Doc