“Marrying the Wrong Woman: The Brutal Truth About How It Destroys Your Life”

Marrying the wrong person isn’t just a bump in the road; it’s a full-on car crash that can shatter your sex life, obliterate your financial stability, and wreck your mental health. Now, let’s say you get divorced or maybe you want to fix your wife. Some of you do, and that’s okay. But let’s get real here. Your wife isn’t into your old fat body. You don’t take care of yourself, and you have a laundry list of excuses. She’s about as much into you as you are into her physically. Don’t bullshit me with “she’s hot for being 50.” Sure, compared to other 50-year-olds. But let’s be honest.

You want sugar and spice and everything nice? Buddy, this is NOT Disneyland. We don’t live in fantasy worlds with snow cones and sticky hands. We get to the point so we can have the life we want. So, let’s say you get divorced. Still got kids at home? That means child support. That means alimony. That means splitting finances down the middle — sometimes less for the man, because of legal disparities. Divorce isn’t just an emotional rollercoaster; it’s a financial wrecking ball. If you’ve been married a long time and didn’t get a prenuptial agreement, you’re in for a rough ride. You’ll be splitting assets, dealing with court battles, and possibly watching your hard-earned money slip away.

So, before you think about fixing your wife or staying in a miserable marriage, think about the real costs — financial, emotional, and beyond. It’s a hard truth, but facing it head-on is the first step toward the life you really want. Now, when men ask me to groom their wives, I tell them, be careful what you wish for. At the very core of their being lies their true nature, and it might not involve you. When I brainwash them, they come back with a clean slate, and their core values get updated to adult status. Most people are stuck in their juvenile perversions, unable to grow into the adult sexual part of themselves. They’re always in a state of cognitive dissonance, with two conflicting values operating simultaneously — a double bind. They seek validation, men and women alike, but primarily men when it comes to sexual performance (they are more needy than women). This situation is insidious, but it’s the reality. After 20 years in sexual education, I can tell you, it’s a fucking crisis out there.

Well, anyway, let’s talk about the double bind of “marriage” (a fucking institutionalism). It’s a disaster that unfolds in slow motion, leaving you wondering how everything went so spectacularly wrong. Let’s dive into the gritty details of what happens when you tie the knot with the wrong woman, backed by cold, hard statistics. Sex life? A downward spiral.

Marital dissatisfaction can turn your once-thriving sex life into a barren wasteland. Studies show that 20% of married couples are in a sexless marriage, defined as having sex less than ten times a year. When there’s no emotional connection or mutual attraction, intimacy is the first casualty, leaving both partners frustrated and yearning for something more. Differences in sexual preferences or libido can create a chasm that seems impossible to bridge. According to a survey by the Kinsey Institute, 12% of men reported infidelity due to sexual dissatisfaction in their marriage. When your desires are ignored or dismissed, resentment builds, and the bedroom becomes a battleground instead of a sanctuary. Unresolved conflicts and unmet needs are the perfect breeding ground for resentment. The longer these issues fester, the more they poison your relationship, making any attempt at rekindling intimacy feel like a futile effort. This emotional erosion is a silent killer, slowly dismantling the foundation of your marriage.

Money fights are the number one predictor of divorce, according to a study from Utah State University. When your financial priorities clash, every purchase becomes a point of contention. It’s not just about the money; it’s about control, trust, and values. And when those things are out of sync, financial instability isn’t far behind. One partner’s reckless spending can plunge you both into debt, turning money into a constant source of stress. The American Psychological Association reports that 72% of Americans feel stressed about money at least some of the time. When debt piles up, so does the tension, creating a toxic environment that spills over into every aspect of your relationship. Without a unified approach to finances, you’re setting yourself up for failure. A study by the National Endowment for Financial Education found that 31% of couples argue about money at least once a month. Disagreement on long-term financial goals means inadequate savings, poor investments, and a lack of financial security — leaving you unprepared for the future and constantly on edge.

Constant conflict? Frequent arguments and unresolved issues can lead to chronic stress, anxiety, and depression. According to the Journal of Family Psychology, couples in high-conflict marriages are more likely to suffer from mental health issues. The daily grind of conflict erodes your sanity, leaving you a shadow of your former self. Emotional drain? A toxic relationship drains your emotional energy, making it difficult to find joy in anything. The National Institutes of Health reports that individuals in unhappy marriages are three times more likely to suffer from severe depression than those in happy marriages. This emotional exhaustion seeps into every part of your life, making it hard to function. Loss of self-worth? Constant criticism and lack of support can erode your self-esteem. Emotional abuse is insidious, creeping into your psyche and dismantling your sense of self. A study from the University of Michigan found that individuals in unhappy marriages are more likely to have low self-esteem, compounding the mental toll.

Chronic stress from a bad marriage doesn’t just mess with your mind — it takes a toll on your body. The American Heart Association notes that people in stressful relationships are more likely to develop cardiovascular disease. The physical repercussions of marital stress can be life-threatening, making it a silent killer. A strained marriage often leads to social withdrawal. The loneliness epidemic is real, with Harvard research showing that social isolation can increase the risk of premature death by 26%. When your marriage becomes a source of pain, you pull away from friends and family, leaving you isolated and vulnerable. Being stuck in a toxic marriage can stifle your personal growth. The constant stress and conflict can make it impossible to focus on your goals and aspirations. According to the Journal of Marriage and Family, individuals in supportive marriages are more likely to pursue personal growth, highlighting the stifling effect of a bad marriage.

I had this fat fuck client named Henry. He owned a bakery, short and round, with a massive lack of validation from his father which made him very neurotic. He ended up marrying a sweet fat woman who had her own physical health issues. She didn’t want to be with him, but she was so religiously programmed to please the fat fuck that she denied him intimacy. The guy hired me to fix his wife — or rather, to teach him how to fix his wife. I told him, “What’s the point? She doesn’t want to be fixed. But you can be fixed.”

This all ties back to missed opportunity costs. What are you losing out on if you go ahead with living separately and keeping the financial assets together, or separating legally? Some of you have been married for a long time, and you own things together because you were too stupid to get a prenuptial agreement. What would that mean about you if you had done it back then? Right. Well, I’m telling you right now it’s time to really think about marriage and lost opportunities.

Being stuck in an unhappy marriage drains your motivation and focus, often leading to career stagnation. Promotions, new opportunities, and even the passion for your work can slip through your fingers. The emotional weight of a bad marriage can leave you feeling stuck and unmotivated to chase your dreams. A partner who doesn’t align with your financial values can lead to poor financial decisions and mounting debt. Without coordinated financial planning, the costs of maintaining a household can spiral out of control, leaving you both in a worse financial position. The stress of financial instability only adds to the strain. The time and money you pour into a failing marriage are resources that could be better spent elsewhere. Whether it’s advancing your career, investing in personal growth, or building other relationships, the opportunity cost of staying in a bad marriage is significant. Those lost investments can hold you back from reaching your full potential.