On “SEX”
Let’s talk about what no one wants to admit: porn might just be quietly killing your sex life.
You’re scrolling through still images, beating off to people who wouldn’t know your name if you tattooed it across their chest, while a real woman, warm and breathing, waits somewhere in the world.
But here’s the catch — porn doesn’t want you; it doesn’t crave you. That’s the missing link.
Real desire is embodied. It’s two people getting lost together, not a one-man show in front of a screen.
What’s even crazier? Men are doing this to themselves.
They’re lost in the “bro-science” theories they picked up online — who tells them, “Women are the problem,” “Women are the ones to blame,” all while quietly dodging self-responsibility.
So they fall into the fantasy that it’s easier to disconnect than take action. From a young age, they’re told to keep it all bottled up. Be stoic. Don’t feel. Don’t connect.
Don’t show a chink in the armor. And what happens when they finally reach a boiling point? They withdraw, go quiet, and check out emotionally.
Porn becomes the quickest way to let off that pressure, a stress response that spirals deeper and deeper into a rabbit hole of inadequacy.
And don’t get me wrong, I LOVE PORN. I LOVE WRITING IT. I LOVE PRODUCING IT.
But…
Here’s the dark twist: when real relationships inevitably feel like they’re falling short, these men retreat even further into their fantasies.
The problem gets worse — no longer just about feeling inadequate or not making enough money but morphing into a whole new beast: a cycle of self-sabotage.
And when they do finally try to connect? Premature ejaculation, erectile dysfunction, and a swift return to those “safer,” perfectly tailored fantasies.
They start out thinking, “Maybe I’ll just watch a little to blow off steam,” but as their reality disconnects further, that “little” becomes “more” — and soon they’re watching extreme scenarios just to feel that same spark.
Think gas masks, latex, ball-crushing fetish content. And for married men? Well, the wife doesn’t stand a chance in this fantasy-realm setup.
She’s left wondering why he’s checked out, why he’s cold, why nothing she tries seems to reach him. And those men who are single? Real intimacy, with real women, starts to feel like a pale imitation compared to what they’ve come to expect in their fantasy life.
That sexual energy? Dormant. Totally stagnant.
Watch the episode:
https://www.facebook.com/100044471497267/videos/1029660148843653/
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