Proper Etiquette
Proper etiquette is often discussed in the D/s community, but it’s important to understand that there’s a difference between me and those you’ve sought out before.
I’m highly credentialed and have dedicated significant time to mastering my craft. Why? Because I own several companies and have worked as a contractor for major firms in psychological profiling and consumer psychology. This background makes me highly qualified, possibly the best in the field. I’m not trying to brag, but I want to highlight the difference in expertise. Sure, there might be some 20-year-old Hypnodomme using AI to create videos you enjoy, but what are you comparing that to without prior experience?
Recently, someone questioned my status as a femdom, citing the stereotypical marketing imagery — dark latex, a frown, a whip, or now, a rubber dildo. Dominance goes beyond clothing and props. You’ve likely encountered naturally dominant people, true leaders, not just those playing a role with rubber toys.
Many offer me gifts, which I appreciate, but I don’t really need them. Instead, consider asking me what I’m currently researching and offer books or computer equipment. Sometimes, I need plane tickets to meet with other researchers. While I appreciate gifts like gold-encased flowers, cell phones, or gift cards, I prefer that you invest in my highly skilled programs, either in person or virtually. This supports my work and helps me pay my team.
I don’t bombard you with messages unless we’re doing conditioning. If you feel overwhelmed, communicate that respectfully. I’ve learned the importance of pacing interactions, especially for those at the Asylum — a psychological, not just physical, space.
Please respect these guidelines:
- Do not scream or swear at me, sexually harass me, or treat me like you own me because you’ve paid a deposit. Such behavior will lead to severe consequences. Your buyer’s remorse is your issue, not mine. In my domain, I control all aspects.
- Understand that you may come with years of bad programming. I’m here to reprogram you, but you must start by respecting me and my information. If you have questions, email me politely, and I’ll respond within a day or two.
- Be kind, gentle, and reflective. Empty your cup of previous conditioning when entering my space, much like in martial arts.
- Have integrity. Only you know your values. I can see manipulation before it happens, so don’t bring others into this realm without permission. I’ve worked with clients’ spouses before, but I need to know these things upfront to ensure effective and safe brainwashing.
- Be honest. If you’re married or have kids, tell me. I won’t ask you to sacrifice your living arrangements. While I may see marriage as a scam, I won’t suggest a divorce that could harm your financial stability.
Remember the golden rule: treat others how you want to be treated.
