So, Ask Yourself: Are You Ready to Step Out of the Fantasy and Into the Life You Actually Want?

You’re not Hugh. No one is Hugh. Hugh was one of a kind — and in case you missed the memo, Hugh is dead.

Ask the average guy how many women he’s been with, and you’ll get a number that sounds like it belongs to a retired rock star.

“Oh, I’ve had my fun,” he’ll say, puffing up his chest. But here’s what the data tells us: the median number of sexual partners for men in the U.S. is six. Not 60. Not even 16. Six.

And here’s the best part — those numbers are self-reported. Meaning even that might be a stretch.

Studies show men inflate their numbers because they feel like they’re supposed to. Society has conditioned them to think their worth is tied to their body count. But deep down, they know the truth.

Behind the bravado, most men aren’t living the fantasy they claim. They’re not slaying dragons or building harems. They’re scrolling, swiping, fantasizing, and lying awake at night wondering why none of it feels real.

The problem isn’t just that men lie — it’s that they’ve bought into their own lie. They’ve created a fantasy world on social forums like Fetlife.com or Alt.com because reality feels too uncomfortable to face. In this world, every woman wants them.

It’s all a game on there. Men parading around in outfits they’d never dare wear in their day-to-day lives — clothes so far from their reality that if their wife stumbled across them, it’d be divorce papers on the table by morning. She’d be thinking, Why the hell is he wearing that when I could be with someone who’s actually a man? She’d take him for everything in the divorce, leave him high and dry, and move on to someone who doesn’t need to play dress-up to feel like they matter.

For a lot of men, porn and these social forums are the ultimate fantasy factory. It’s instant, predictable, and requires zero effort. It’s a world where they can be whoever they want and experience anything they desire without the risk of rejection.

But the cost is steep. Studies show that excessive porn consumption rewires the brain, making real-world connections feel less rewarding. It creates unrealistic expectations and leaves men ill-equipped to navigate real relationships.

In other words, the more they escape into porn, the harder it becomes to step out of the fantasy and into reality.

Let’s get back to those numbers. The median body count for men in the U.S. is six. Not impressive, not shameful — just average. Yet, most men will swear they’ve had double, triple, or more. Why? Because admitting the truth feels like admitting failure.

But here’s the irony: the lie doesn’t impress anyone. Women see through it, other men don’t care, and the only person being fooled is the liar himself.