“The Difference Between ‘Fucking’ and Making Love”
Not all sex is the same, even if it is with the same person. But, the most important distinction is between when it is having sex — let’s call it what it really is, aka, fucking — vs making love. Those are not mere words, but different ways of connecting sexually.
Fucking, aka having sex, is about you, while making love is about your partner. That’s why they say, ‘make love to me.’ It is about loving another’s body, inch by inch. You are focused outward, and on to the other body whereas when you are fucking, you are focused inwards, on your own body.
Fucking has its time, and fucking has its place. When you are inwardly focus you are more likely to have anxiety and when you are outwardly focused, you are in a different state of mind, calibrating your lovers response.
Fucking, or having sex for sex’s sake, is about reaching climax, whereas lovemaking is about enjoying every part of the process. And in the process of “slowing down” you can achieve great things.
1. The act of making love triggers the release of endorphins, dopamine, and oxytocin, commonly known as the “feel-good” hormones. These natural chemicals contribute to reducing stress, improving mood, and promoting a sense of well-being. By engaging in regular sexual intimacy, men can experience decreased levels of anxiety, improved mental clarity, and an overall boost in their emotional state.
2. Making love has various physical health benefits for men. Regular sexual activity can contribute to improved cardiovascular health, as it promotes increased blood circulation, lowers blood pressure, and helps maintain a healthy heart. Additionally, engaging in sexual intimacy can strengthen the immune system, boost the production of antibodies, and even provide pain relief due to the release of endorphins.
3. Engaging in intimate connections and experiencing the pleasure of making love can significantly boost a man’s self-confidence and self-esteem. This positive impact stems from feelings of being desired, appreciated, and valued by their partner. The emotional and physical connection formed during intimate moments can reinforce a man’s sense of self-worth and enhance his overall confidence in his abilities both in and out of the bedroom.
So slow down, and take your time. Allow these benefits to occur and you will enjoy the experience so much better.
Love,
Dr. Kali DuBois
