“The Psychology of Dating A Sex Worker (Stripper, Escort & Other Hands-On Careers)”

For two decades, I have been engaged in the profession of sex work, with a significant portion of my time devoted to pursuing a Ph.D. But not the sex work we think of sex work. I think about sex and write about it.

Throughout my journey, I have encountered a range of reactions from the men I’ve dated regarding my profession as a sexual educator. Some have expressed discomfort or disapproval, while others have been accepting and understanding. Ultimately, how an individual responds to dating a sex worker is a deeply personal and subjective matter. While I may not have personally worked as an escort, I have had my fair share of unique experiences.

These experiences have granted me valuable insights and perspectives, shaping my understanding of the intricacies involved in dating a sex worker. If I had possessed greater confidence, I might have considered exploring the world of escorting myself. One day, when I’m 70 I’ll cater to a specific geriatric fetish.

Dating a sex worker brings forth unique challenges and complexities that require open-mindedness, acknowledging and respecting their autonomy and agency. Understand that their choice of profession stems from personal decisions, empowerment, or financial stability. Recognizing their independence and supporting their individuality outside of their work environment fosters a healthier dynamic in the relationship.

Approach your partner’s profession without judgment. Remember that sex work is a valid and legal occupation, and your partner deserves the same respect and support as anyone else pursuing their career.

Dating a sex worker means encountering some risqué stories and experiences that will make your eyebrows raise. Mastering the art of keeping a straight face during these conversations can be a challenge, but hey, it’s all part of the adventure.

Take the initiative to educate yourself about the sex work industry, its challenges, and the legal framework surrounding it. And understand you will experience emotions (like in all relationships) and you will feel like it’s against your values at least once (that’s normoal); jealousy often stems from personal insecurities rather than the actions of your partner.

Take the initiative to educate yourself about the sex work industry, its challenges, and the legal framework surrounding it.

And imagine this at the end of the day, suddenly, your partner starts practicing her incredible pole dancing moves on the kitchen countertop. You’ll find yourself in awe of her skills.