The Role of The Father In Dominance And Why A lot of Male Dominants Struggle To Keep Their Sex Harems [Video]

Just yesterday, I received a call from someone frustrated because his subs were not responding to him. He was trying to “fake it” by imitating what he thought dominance should look like, but his lack of authenticity and understanding was evident. His subs sensed this, and naturally, they were not into him. Dominance isn’t about playing a role; it’s about embodying a presence.

I guarantee you this man likely had issues stemming from his father. Allow me to explain. Most men who have unresolved issues with their father figure often end up emotionally troubled.

They might become distant and engage in promiscuous behavior, seeking validation through sexual conquests. Many develop habitual sex addictions, using sex as a means to feel validated.

The last guy I was involved with had severe father issues. This manifested in neurotic behavior and a constant need for external validation through sex.

The Role of the Father Figure

For Men:

Identity and Confidence… A father figure plays a crucial role in helping a son develop a sense of identity and confidence.

Without this guidance, men may struggle with self-esteem and self-worth, leading them to seek validation through external means, such as sex.

For Women:

Self-Worth and Relationships… For daughters, a father figure helps instill a sense of self-worth and influences their expectations in relationships.

Without this, women might struggle with self-esteem and may seek validation through unhealthy relationships.

If these roles are lacking, it can significantly affect an individual as they grow older.

Men might struggle with self-validation and resort to habitual sex or other forms of external validation.

They might find themselves in unhealthy relationships, continuously seeking the validation they never received from their father.

Years of therapy bills or self-medicating with sex, drugs, or alcohol may follow. Even if you try to hide it by living a vanilla life, the unresolved issues can drive you back to seeking validation in unhealthy ways, perpetuating a cycle of self-abuse.

This is why I say, slow down. Take the time to figure out your patterns, fix them, and overcome the resistance of submissives or dominants.

Just because you are male and have physical attributes typically associated with dominance does not mean you automatically possess the qualities of a true dominant.

Self-validation is crucial. If you grew up with an abusive father, and if that father figure constantly cut you down, you are likely to struggle with low self-esteem. Low self-esteem can severely impact one’s ability to validate oneself and, by extension, others.

An abusive father can leave deep emotional scars. Constant criticism and emotional abuse can instill a sense of inadequacy and self-doubt. Studies have shown that children who grow up with abusive parents often struggle with self-worth and confidence in adulthood.

Dominance requires ongoing self-improvement and a willingness to learn from every interaction. The foundation of a strong dominant-submissive relationship is built on empathy, clear communication, and mutual respect.

By understanding these dynamics and working on your self-esteem and authenticity, you can become a true dominant who inspires genuine respect and submission from others.