When People Lie
The worst thing you can be in this lifetime is someone without integrity. But if you’re being messed with, why maintain integrity? Do those who toy with you, use you as a tool, or invade your space deserve it?
I live between worlds, often finding myself confused about which one I’m in. Today, I decided to grab a coffee at the ubiquitous swindle and corporate giant we all know as Starbucks. While I was sitting there, working on some audio editing, some twat sat down right behind me in this big open room and started talking on her phone. Loudly. I turned around and said, “Hey, look, lady…”
She seemed rather confused. I pointed out that I was doing sound engineering and needed her to move away from the only corner of this huge, empty place. She was white, thin, in her 50s, and drove a Land Rover, probably married to one of my readers, so I asked her, “Do you fuck good?”
“How dare you ask me that?” she snapped.
I looked her up and down and said, “That response shows it. You’re a terrible fuck, just as you’re totally unaware of other people and why they choose a dimly lit corner to edit their work away from the large crowd. You are completely unaware. And I’m sure you’re just as unaware in bed.”
She finally got her old ass up and moved away. Why am I telling you this? Because people are entitled. You can take away their entitlements by offending them. Otherwise, the righteous indignation takes over, and they will die for the cause — martyr.
I write this on Father’s Day, and I’m sure many of you reading this are fathers. I seem to attract fathers, husbands, and men who pretend not to be either yet are. Most of the time, it’s obvious from your behavior. Like the time a client told me he lived in a studio apartment in San Jose, which turned out to be his commuter pad. He’d drive to Sacramento on weekends to be with his five kids and very Muslim wife. You can’t lie to me — lying to me is like lying to the devil. The devil knows all.
I observe your eye movements, your body language, your speech patterns, and your behaviors. I profile you, anticipating your actions before they occur. Every move I make is five steps ahead of yours, shaping you into exactly who I want you to be.
I did not ask for these skills or to be wired this way; I have myself been programmed. Now it is hardwired into me to notice. I see without needing to look, and I feel without needing to touch. I did not have a choice like you do; it was something I enlisted into at 18. You have a choice, while I was a person escaping one bad situation for the next. Anyhow.
Okay, let’s talk about this: animals of the mind. Yes, little animals that move between our eyes and into our ears. Okay, that makes no sense at all, so let’s get back to the topic at hand.
Profiling.
You don’t have to believe me. I expect maybe 1% of people to believe me. All of it is true. In fact, I have had to tone it down; otherwise, not even the 1% would believe it to be true.
Now let’s talk about eyes for a moment. They reveal so much.
When I profile male clients who lie to me, I watch their eye movements closely. When they look up and to the right, they are constructing images — a sign of deception. When they look up and to the left, they are remembering visual details. A glance to the right side indicates they are constructing sounds, while a glance to the left side means they are recalling sounds. Looking down and to the right shows they are accessing internal dialogue, while down and to the left indicates they are connecting with their feelings.
By observing these subtle cues, I can see through the lies. You can’t hide your true self from me. I use these insights to understand your true intentions and motives, shaping my responses to guide you exactly where I want you to be.
