Why I Don’t Work with Men in the Adult Entertainment Industry: A Look at Patriarchal Influence
Women need to own the adult industry and take the lead in reclaiming female sexuality. It’s time to move beyond exploitation and break free from the patriarchal agenda that has dominated for far too long. Women deserve control over how their sexuality is expressed and represented, without being exploited or reduced to someone else’s narrative.
When I was filming a lot of adult content in LA, there was this creeper who pretended to be a producer, always trying to get on my set just so he could watch. He’d promise big breaks but never followed through. This is exactly the kind of behavior I’m talking about.
When I first started out, I had an office manager with a toddler. I let her bring him to the office, and she even breastfed him at her desk. Why? Because she could still get her work done while being a mom. There’s no reason she couldn’t do both, and I fully supported that.
Now when it comes to running my business, I’ve made a clear decision: I prefer not to work with men. Whether it’s in my office or over Zoom, given the option, I’ll always choose to hire a woman.
Some might call this gender discrimination, but there’s a reason for it. Time and again, I’ve witnessed men in the adult entertainment industry struggle to maintain professionalism. They tend to regress into inappropriate behaviors, either turning into perverts or acting like they have no clue how to conduct themselves. The problem stems from patriarchal conditioning — men are often raised to see themselves as the natural authority, and when it comes to sexuality, they’re told that it revolves around their needs.
This entitlement, fostered by patriarchal norms, often leads to a lack of control in professional settings. Instead of seeing adult entertainment as a legitimate business, many men get caught up in the fantasy aspect and let their sexual desires cloud their judgment. They can’t approach the industry as a business because they’re wired by societal influences to see it as a means to satisfy their own sexual urges. For them, the focus becomes their personal gratification, not the bottom line.
The truth is, this isn’t just about individual men — it’s a reflection of patriarchal behaviors at large. Men are conditioned by society to believe they can insert themselves into spaces where they don’t belong, take what they want, and feel entitled to sexual satisfaction. In a field like adult entertainment, where boundaries and professionalism are key, that patriarchal mindset creates issues. Men, unable to separate their personal desires from the work, regress to these outdated patterns of behavior.
Women, on the other hand, bring a different energy to the industry. Without that same patriarchal conditioning clouding their judgment, they’re able to view the adult entertainment business as a business, not an outlet for personal fantasies. They handle the work with professionalism, respect, and a focus on what truly matters: making money and running a successful business. They don’t let personal urges derail their ability to focus on the bottom line.
This is why I prefer working with women. It’s not about thinking men are incapable, but about recognizing that patriarchal conditioning makes it difficult for many men to approach the adult entertainment space with the level of professionalism it demands. And when I’m running my business, I don’t have time for those outdated behaviors.
The reality is, patriarchy shapes how men are taught to think about sex, power, and control — and in an industry where maintaining clear boundaries is everything, that’s a liability. So yes, I choose to work with women because they come to the table with professionalism, clarity, and a business-focused mindset that isn’t clouded by patriarchal behaviors.
In a world where male entitlement can ruin the work environment, I want my business to be a space where respect, professionalism, and success take center stage — without the baggage of patriarchal influence.
